If you can't say anything nice...

when I was a teenager, I went through a phase of getting people I knew to give me their autograph and a little saying or witticism, in a hard backed note book. I can't remember how this came about, it might have been a fad at the time. I remember I did one when I left one school to go to another as a way of remembering those who didn't end up at the same school as me.

Anyway, one of the people I asked was the partner of one of my friend's fathers - a woman called Sarah Balfour. In my book she wrote

"If you can't think of anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

At the time I thought this a bit twee, a bit virtuous, a bit meek. I remember thinking "huh! how boring!"

I now realise that to practice this really takes a lot of courage and determination.

It's so easy to moan, whinge, complain, bitch about people, the world. To join in on negative conversations, you know the sort of thing "Well if you think THAT's bad, you should hear what they said to me, blah blah.."

What would happen if we ALL, collectively, practiced this, just for a day? How amazing would that be?

Susan Jeffer's talks in one of her seminars about how she set a group doing a weekly workshop with her the task of not complaining for a week. When they came back, they all said they had literally nothing to say to anyone all week! To their colleagues, their families, their friends, nothing!

If you didn't allow yourself the luxury of a negative comment, a moan or a bitch - what would YOU say for the rest of the day?

Writing about yourself is weird

I've just wrote about myself in my profile bit. Isn't writing about yourself weird?! I did a list of things I like rather than talk about me, as I think that says more somehow. You can tell a lot about someone by what they like (I hope!!)

I added this image because a. i wanted to figure out how to add images and b. because my husband took it and it's beautiful. It is of Staithes in North Yorkshire which is paradise to me.

Do you think I will become addicted to blog? I'd better be careful what I say incase someone finds me!

This is all new to me!

I finally got a blog. isn't it a clunky word, blog? Anyhow, this is somewhat of a test. I'll be casting pearls of wisdom and bearing my pink soul shortly no doubt. I wonder who will ever read this? here goes!