Friday, July 14, 2006

...and it's the little things that can cheer you the most!

I heard someone say recently that in all relationships, the little things ARE the big things. This really struck a chord with me. In like, we tend to focus on big things, big issues. We worry about careers, finances, relationships. But what about all of the little things in life? What would it be like if we stopped to consider these more?

For example, in relationships, what are the small things that make all of the difference? It's those little kindnesses, it's remembering to praise someone for a job well done. It's letting someone else choose the movie. It's taking someone else's turn to do the dishes just because. It's remembering to say 'I love you' often enough.

I am am very lucky in my relationship with my husband, we rarely fight and are a great source of love, support, strength, perspective and humour to each other. I think a huge contributor to this state of happiness are all the little daily kindnesses that we carry out for each other and the attention we pay to each others achievements, issues and worries. Forget grand gestures, just spend time daily paying real attention and conciously contributing to the happiness and fulfillment of your other half and you won't go far wrong.

What little kindnesses can you bestow on your loved ones today? here are some ideas;

complete a task they've been putting off for them - cleaning walking boots, fixing a bike puncture, sorting some paperwork etc.

Affirm them with something about them that you admire

Run them a bath and bring them their favourite drink

When they present an issue or problem, really listen. Focus on them. Don't judge or problem solve.

Write them a note of appreciation and slip it in their work bag or lunch box.

Feed your relationships and watch them grow!


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